Mismatched libidos: What do you do? In fact, low desire in one partner is probably the top reason couples seek out sex therapy. When one of you has more interest in sex than the other, it's easy for the person with the higher sex drive to feel rejected, bruised and undesirable and for the partner who avoids sex to feel pressure, anxious and guilty. Any number of factors can affect sexual desire, and most of them have little to do with your partner's attractiveness. In the study I mentioned, researchers found that for both men and women, physical and mental health had an impact on libido. But they may have different motivations for avoiding sex. When is it really time for couples therapy? They may avoid it to escape the anxiety of these issues reoccurring. And sometimes, life just gets in the way.
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