The interesting thing to know about limerence is that for most people it lasts between six and 24 months — three years if you are lucky. Then bang! Those chemicals leave the body and they don't come back unless you get another lover. This is where I look at people's narratives about love and sex. In limerence a lot of the desire and lust is spontaneous and it's easy to get to sex and to feel adventurous. Because of this, many people think when you get yourself into a relationship you will both ride off into the sunset and make love happily every after.
But, operating on autopilot without making a concerted effort to nurture physical closeness can lead to decreased fulfillment, which is never good. It may before may not be planned in build up. Jory says he believes maintenance femininity is essential to the success of a long-term relationship for three reasons. Couples regularly say that although they were reluctant at first, once they made the plunge to have femininity it was a positive experience. After he runs into this issue clinically, he works with the couples en route for essentially learn a whole new dialect that helps them overcome shame, alarm, or embarrassment surrounding the topic of sex.