The F Word is a series celebrating what it means to be fat — from destigmatizing the word to taking stock of the discrimination fat people face. How do fat people have sex? Just like everyone else, of course! Any sexual journey is all about what feels right, no matter what size you are. Fat sex, skinny sex, or any sex in between, you should feel comfortable and good about what you are doing. Just you. First things first, sex should be consensual and safe, every time, for every body. For a refresher on what consent means and entails, check out this cool graphic brought to you by Planned Parenthood.
Background tells us bodies like mine are impossible to love. My first adoration went to art school, and ahead of schedule in our courtship he invited me to a student show of his photography. Haunting photographs hung on the walls, a ghostly kind of self-portrait of his changing body. He had started testosterone shortly before we met, and the double-exposed photos seemed en route for show his body as a specter as the hormones took root. We lived two states away from all other and on the weekends would meet in the middle in Boston, spending long days together. He wrote me letters nearly every day, after that I responded like clockwork. His adoration letters landed like a blow, knocking the wind out of me.
My mam has always wished she could be as skinny as she was the first time she thought she was fat - and I a lot wish the same for my femininity life. Not necessarily that I aspiration I was skinny as I was when I first started banging, although I wonder how my sex animation would differ if I'd stayed at the same time as thin as I was then. My first five fuck buddies, when I was 16 and a size 14, only banged me if I was fully dressed or off my accept. These guys were not at the same time, but in quick chain, because as much as I hated my body back then, I allow always adored getting railed. What these men did have in common, but, was their own slimness, or the kind of weight that was deemed acceptable on a guy but by no means a girl and not even a teenage girl from a fat ancestor with an eating disorder to ankle boot. From that moment on, I barely fucked him while wearing an extra-large hoodie. Beyond their microaggressions, these ancestor still wanted to bone and as a result, must have found me bangable.