Every month in Sex at Our Age, award-winning senior sexpert Joan Price answers your questions about everything from loss of desire to solo sex and partner issues. Nothing is out of bounds! I enjoy my vibrator, but I miss the feeling of skin on skin and the embrace of another body. I want to feel exciting and excited. Sometimes I wish I could just have a man in bed for an afternoon when I want him, then have him go away. Is that sexist, treating a grown man like a boy toy? I was brought up to see sex and love as part of the same package, preferably pointing to marriage. Is that even possible for women? How do I bring sex back into my life?
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